Security during separation


If you find yourself in a situation where you are facing tough separation, it is essential to start documenting what is happening as soon as possible. This will help you keep track of the details and ensure you clearly understand the situation.
Keep track each day
  • Use a diary with a full ‘day to a page’ format and get used to writing a quick update each day, even if only to report that nothing happened that day – it might be key to show this in a court case.
  • If anything happens, stay calm but write it down for later consideration. Think of what happened, who was involved, time, location, witnesses, what the lead up to it was and what happened at the end. All of this will help you later.
Protect yourself
  • It is also important to take steps to protect yourself during this time. This may include obtaining a restraining order or filing for child custody. Seek out legal assistance to ensure that you are taking the appropriate steps.
Know your rights
  • Separation and divorce can be challenging experiences for anyone, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Being informed about your rights and taking proactive steps can help you get through the separation process with your dignity intact.
  • Thoroughly understanding the separation and divorce process and being aware of your rights and obligations. You should also make sure that all of your legal bases are covered. It’s also important to be familiar with related documents, such as separation agreements or custody arrangements. If you are uncertain about anything, it is best to seek advice from a legal professional who can provide more guidance on these matters.
  • By taking proactive steps and looking after yourself during separation and divorce proceedings, you will have greater control over the outcomes of the process. Ultimately, this will help you protect yourself and ensure that your best interests are served throughout the transition.
Take care
  • It’s important to look after yourself during this time – self-care is essential for keeping stress levels down and helping you remain resilient in the face of adversity. You may need to take some time off from work, spend time with close friends or family, come to one of our peer support groups or find other ways to relax. Making sure you are getting enough rest, eating healthy meals, and exercising will also help keep your mental health in check.
Reach out
  • If you are experiencing situational distress, it is vital to seek support from family, friends and our support groups. They can provide you with emotional support during this difficult time. If needed, please call our Helpline 1300 853 437



Protect yourself during the separation period.

  • You should also take steps to protect yourself online. This includes changing passwords and setting up dual authentication login on email, bank and social media accounts. By taking these precautions, you can help protect yourself from being “hacked” or taken advantage of during a difficult time.

  • If you no longer live where you did, ensure all major accounts that have your address know that you’ve moved; consider redirecting your mail to prevent a former partner accessing important and private accounts.

  • Consider securing key documents that belong to you, such as birth certificate, insurance policies, passport, shares, agreements etc.

  • Ensure that joint accounts cannot be drawn down, emptied or extended (e.g. mortgage) without your knowledge / approval. This happens more commonly than most realise and usually means both parties are equally liable for payment.

  • If you are struggling to move forward in your legal case, or to afford the costs, consider self representation – its less scary or complex than most think and you’ll soon get the hang of it with help from us and others.

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