Parents Beyond Breakup is a charity that supports parents experiencing trauma related to family breakdown and separation. Separation from their former partner and from their children; a factor closely linked to suicide in Australia.
Every child deserves the best start in life and that is why we work so hard to keep separated parents alive and in their children’s lives.
Parents Beyond Breakup not only supports parents experiencing trauma through family breakdown and separation but also acknowledges the specific issues of parent-child contact and ‘parental alienation’, factors closely linked to stress, anxiety, depression, isolation and suicide in Australia.
Every child deserves to have a relationship with both of their parents ….
Dr. Stan Korosi PhD
Principal Consultant-Director Administrative Services Director-Family Bridges Workshop
Parental alienation goes by many names to avoid confronting its ugly reality as a social and severe public health issue with potentially fatal outcomes. The social sciences are replete with research demonstrating how destructive, if not deadly, the process of alienation is for parents and children. Alienation is an ideology that dehumanises parents and treats children as disposable and tradeable assets. It defines family by membership in a voluntary and temporary social group. And memberships can be cancelled! Alienation is a cancel-culture. It uses narratives to construct alternate and false realities that make discrediting, vilifying a parent, and coercing their children to revoke their membership appear normal. The solutions are counter-narratives to “de-normalise” and disrupt alienation processes and structural de-alienation through social institutions such as Family Law to reinstitute family membership. Structural de-alienation also requires grassroots social action to change social attitudes and laws to apply more equitable approaches to parental alienation as a social and public health issue.
Cheryl Duffy
Divorce Coach, Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner, NMAS Mediator, Parenting Coordinator & Author
Cheryl Duffy, Founder of The Divorce Centre, Divorce Coach, Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner, Mediator, Parenting Coordinator & author of bestseller “The Divorce Tango”, helps families impacted by separation and divorce so they have the courage and the confidence to stay empowered through the challenges ahead.
“Separating from your partner can make you feel like you are under attack, ambushed and ripped to shreds. Tame your triggers and emotions to survive.”
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Adam Jones
Principal Solicitor, Family Law
“Sometimes the family law requires parents to jump through giant flaming hoops to get the best results for their children. It’s all about knowing which hoops to jump through and how to not get burned.”
Adam Jones is a family lawyer with years of experience in high conflict separations where children are involved. Without question, the hardest matters are those that involve parental alienation. Watch the part one video for more on these cases.
In video 2 Adam speaks about circumstance where a child’s rejection of another parent is a response to the anxious attachment of the child to the resident parent. What the video to find out what are the signs of anxious attachment in children.
In video 3 Adam speaks about the long game. Sometimes we get to a point in litigation where there might have been a failed psychological intervention, or where expert advice comes in and is inconclusive. What the video to find out more about the long game.
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SHAYA LEWIS-DERMODY
Author & Director, The Family Law Project
“Families and children need to be put at the front and centre of separation and thankfully we are starting to see a shift in this space.”-
Secrets of a Divorce Lawyer: An Insider's Guide for Successfully Navigating Separation & Saving on Legal Fees
Separated and trying to stay out of court?
Trying to navigate the Family Law system?
Feeling a sense of overwhelm, trying to avoid lawyers or hoping to minimise your current legal fees?
It doesn’t matter if your separation is amicable or if it is high conflict, nor does it matter if you are self-represented or currently have a lawyer – Secrets of a Divorce Lawyer will provide you with guidance and cost-saving tips to navigate the complex Family Law system. It could potentially save you thousands of dollars when resolving your property or parenting matter.
Lawyers are one of the most distrusted professions in Australia. They have a reputation for overcharging clients while lining their own pockets. In this book, Shaya Lewis-Dermody, a specialist family lawyer with almost twenty years’ experience, recognises the challenges of dealing with lawyers and navigating the Family Law process.
Having seen it all, Shaya doesn’t believe in dirty tricks.
She also doesn’t believe in keeping them a secret!
In Secrets of a Divorce Lawyer, you’ll discover:
- The tricks that lawyers use to generate fees and ‘milk’ your matter
- How choosing the wrong lawyer could cost you thousands
- How to choose the right lawyer if you choose to engage one
- Tips to stay outof court
- Tips for self-represented litigants – for matters both in and out of court
- Ways to significantly reduce your legal fees if you do decide to instruct a lawyer
Plus hundreds of more tips that could save you thousands of dollars.
Separate Ways: Surviving Post-Separation Grief, the Stress of Divorce or Separation, and the Family Law Process
Have you recently separated?
Do you feel a sense of loss or grief?
Are you struggling to navigate your separation and family law matter?
Perhaps you don’t feel like your ‘normal’ self. Perhaps you feel alone on this journey – everyone around you has carried on with their lives, but your life has changed significantly.
You are not alone.
Many of the emotions that you experience following separation are due to the sense of loss and grief following the breakdown of a relationship, the loss of a family, and the loss of your expectation of how your life should be.
Nobody goes into a relationship anticipating a breakup!
In Separate Ways, Shaya Lewis-Dermody explores the concepts of loss and grief following your relationship breakdown.
You’ll discover:
- An understanding of the stages of grief and loss in the context of separation, which, in turn, will help you to understand that it is okay to grieve.
- Strategies to survive this period, including insights and tips from mental health professionals who work with separated families.
- Practical advice from the perspective of an experienced family lawyer, including how to navigate the family law system.
Whether your separation has been amicable or you are experiencing high levels of conflict, Separate Ways is a must-read for anyone who has recently separated.
The Family Law Project You Tube Channel
Numerous replays of webinars on ‘hot topics’ to help navigate the family law system. Property matters, Independent Children’s Lawyers, breach of court orders, where to start when you separate and so on.
The Family Law Project Facebook Page
Loads of 1-5 minute videos over the past few years where we drop the legalese and explain things in simple terms (with accuracy).
By Stephen Santos a song about being alienated from his children.
In a world where our children are facing destruction in and out of the home, this song is the anthem to those who would stand up for what is truly best for them.